Let Go of Doubt to find your Creative Self

Creative

I’ve always been the creative type. Just ask my mom. She has stories of me spending hours painting only to bother her for clean brush water every once in awhile. This didn’t go away with age. I’ve tried so many types of creative outlets, loved almost all of them, stuck with almost none of them (but they sure were fun to try!)

The reason some creatives lose that passion as they get older is because of one little bitch of a word: doubt. I remember so many times that I’ve stared at a piece of paper just wishing I could put my pencil down and start drawing something, but doubt stopped me dead in my tracks.

Courage quotes

Why do we let self doubt control what we create? Doubt is the voice in the back of your head saying “if you don’t try then you can’t fail.” This is why my pencil often stays in one place, leaving me with a blank piece of paper and no creative relief.

Creativity is not only limited to artistic projects, so it is possible that self doubt is keeping you from starting the business, writing the book, submitting your guest post. If you think this might be you, then try this with me:

Pick one task or project right now that you are having trouble starting. Now rip off your band-aid of self doubt and just say to yourself “there is no reason I should be afraid of failing at this.” Step three? See what happens.

Courage quotes

If you can push past your doubt and let your creativity flow with confidence, you will be one step closer to letting go of self doubt altogether. Every tiny accomplishment will make you realize more and more how “failing” is only a construct created by you.

Don’t stare at your piece of paper without moving the pencil. Don’t think. Just have faith in yourself that you can accomplish exactly what you’ve planned all along.

Go for it

For a daily reminder of what you are capable of, save the free graphics above to your phone to use as a wallpaper and remind yourself everyday that you’re a badass!

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Pomodoro Technique: Try this for Optimum Productivity without Getting Burned Out

As the boss of my own life, things can feel pretty electric. I have constant idea-flow and brainstorms that can make it hard to focus on what I’m doing. This can create a big struggle when it comes to productivity. Throw in a strong belief in self care and an affinity for all things distracting and sometimes I find myself spiraling out of control, grasping at any tiny task that might make me feel productive at the end of the day.

Pomodoro Technique

I recently heard about the Pomodoro technique and after giving it a try, I’m finding this might’ve been exactly what I needed.

The Pomodoro technique was created by Francesco Cirillo in the late 80’s. The basic idea is to use a timer to break up your workload in precise amounts that will optimize your productivity. Everyone works differently and this technique can easily be adapted and played around with until you find exactly what’s right for you.

I heard about the Pomodoro technique from a friend who found his “magic numbers” to be 43 minutes of work and 17 minutes of non-work. This seems silly, but he explained it perfectly. Why do stores always charge $24.99 instead of $25? Because whether you realize it or not, your brain is being tricked when it sees the “24.” My friends Pomodoro breakcdown does the same thing.

45 minutes is a common amount of time. Cutting it short, even by 2 minutes, will trick your brain into feeling like it won’t be so dreadfully long. The same thing happens with 17 minutes of rest. We all know how long 15 minutes feels, but any number after 15 make trick you into thinking you have plenty of time!

Of course, we are rational people and we know 2 minutes won’t actually make a difference with your time, but it will make a difference with your attitude. If your work-time is 45 minutes, you might be distracted by wishing it would be over sooner. If 43 minutes tricks your brain into thinking “that’s not so bad” then you can work without the nagging feeling in the back of your head saying “oh my gooooood, when will it ennnnnnnd??”

I’ve been using this technique for a couple weeks now and it hasn’t failed me yet. 43 minutes is enough for me to finish an article or make a few blog graphics or do some social media work and 17 minutes gives me just enough time to rest my brain so that when my timer goes off I can get right back into working mode with ease.

Here’s a pretty awesome timer with a great design to help you with the Pomodoro technique if you want a little style to go with your productivity!

I’d love to hear from you on your favorite tips and tricks to staying productive! Leave it in a comment below or e-mail me at ladybossblog@gmail.com and your advice might be featured at LBN for all to see!

Thanks for stopping by!

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How to get Out of a Rut when your Friends are on Fire

Are you young enough to not have your shit together, but old enough to wish you did? You might be in a rut. Keep reading for my advice on how to feel good about it.

Get out of a rut

If you’re in your 20s then you’ve probably hit (or are about to hit) the point where it seems everyone around you is doing all the things you want to be doing. Your Facebook newsfeed is an endless scroll of pregnancy announcements, engagement photos, or friends bitching about jobs that seem to be 100x better than yours. I reached this stage of my life last year and while it wasn’t easy and my optimism might’ve gone into hiding for a bit, I did learn some things.

Shine Theory

Shine theory

This is a big one! Shine Theory is an idea created by the two incredible lady bosses behind the podcast Call Your Girlfriend. In short, it means that your friends’ and other women’s accomplishments are YOUR accomplishments. If you can let go of your own insecurities and feel truly happy for your friends, you can get yourself out of your rut and keep moving towards your own amazing goals.

Embrace your Envy

Envy is an awful feeling. You know what feels worse? The combination of envy and guilt. Don’t get down on yourself for being envious of your friends’ accomplishments. Its natural and its practically impossible to control. What you can do is reflect on those hard feelings. Get to the root of it. Are you really angry that your best friend got promoted? Of course not! Most likely, you’re hurt because you didn’t. The more you reflect on these feelings, the easier it will be to congratulate them and focus on your own goals.

Enjoy the Ride

Path to success

I’ve known too many women who want to rush through everything. Yes, I want to have a successful blog. Yes, I want to open an online store and do freelance photography and publish a book. Yes, I have an embarrassing amount of pins saved to my “future wedding” board on Pinterest. This doesn’t mean I can’t enjoy the process. If you reach a big step and immediately start dreaming about the next one, you’re not enjoying every rung of the ladder.

I’ve been there, guys. Feeling like everyone is rushing past you in life can be alienating and defeating. I hope this advice will help you get unstuck. Hard feelings will only make a harder journey. Push past and reach your goals!

 

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A Simple List for Getting out of a Blogging Funk

Blogging can be hard, especially when you’re first starting out. We go into it knowing it will take awhile to hit that sweet spot, and yet it’s still so easy to fall into the pit of defeat and lose motivation before that happens. Here is some real talk: I am writing this post because I am in a blogging funk right now! It’s gonna be fine, guys. Here’s a simple list I’ve put together that has helped me and will hopefully do the same for you!

How to Get Out of that Blogging Funk


Sit down and think about it.

Give yourself a block of time and find the determination to only focus on your blog. Have you heard of breaking writer’s block by getting a piece of paper out and writing out your “constant stream of consciousness” within a set amount of time? This unleashes all sorts of thoughts and ideas you probably didn’t realize you had. Do this same thing, but make it a list of blogging ideas. Topics, people, projects, anything that comes to mind that might make a great post. It doesn’t matter how many things you write down that may seem completely silly, because odds are you will write down plenty of amazing ideas.

Get motivation from others.

We all have websites and blogs that we look at and aspire to someday have for ourself. Go to those sites and browse around. I’m not saying you should go to your favorite blog, pick a post and write your own version of it. The point of this exercise is to look at these works and get your brain back in that “I gotta do this” mode. Looking at websites that inspire you will almost always put you in the mood to get back to work.

Give a crap, but don’t give a crap.

I’ve gone over a week without blogging. Until I sat down today to write this post I felt really bad about it. How will I have a successful blog if I take two weeks off from posting?! Where in the world did my motivation go?! The truth is, taking that week off probably didn’t effect my ability to have a successful blog. Sure, I didn’t get much traffic this week, but it’s not like all of my followers abandoned me!

Beating yourself up will help nothing. Sit down and focus and soon enough your motivation will come back. Keep working and be true to your own passions and your blog will thrive!

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Morning Routine Ideas to Start Your Day Off Right

I’m sure it isn’t a foreign idea to any of you that what you do in the morning can drastically change the outcome of your day. That’s why I relish every morning the same way I relish a day off. After all, it is “time off” even if you only have an hour or two before you have to go into work. The best thing you can do is make the most of it. Do just that by finding your own morning routine with the help of this list.

Simple Tips for the Perfect Morning Routine

Wake up with enough time to have an hour or two to yourself.

This is the toughest part of getting a good morning routine for a lot of people, but I promise if you can get in the habit of waking up early you will see how amazing it is to have that time to yourself. Try setting your alarm 15 minutes earlier every day until you reach the time you want and put your alarm clock outside of arm’s reach so you have to get up to turn it off.

(Check out this alarm clock that runs away from you until you turn it off. It’s sure to get you out of bed!)

Once you’re able to wake up early, use the morning to do things you love and that will put you in the right mindset to tackle your day. Do 15 minutes of meditation, cuddle with your dog, or catch up on chores. You don’t even necessarily need to do anything productive as long as you are doing something for yourself.

Drink warm water with lemon and eat breakfast.

Hot water with lemon juice has so many benefits. The warm water mixed with the pectin fiber from the lemon aids in digestion and the vitamins found in lemon juice helps flush out toxins, keeps your skin heathy and energizes you. All of this first thing in the morning can make a huge difference in how you feel all day long.

It would be cliche to say “breakfast is the most important part of the day” if it weren’t so true. Eating a healthy breakfast will make your body feel great and if you take the time to cook or prepare breakfast it can make you feel productive which will motivate you all day long.

Both of these tips are a great part of any healthy morning routine.

Practice mindfulness.

Being mindful means being aware of the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and body. In simple terms, mindfulness means staying in the moment, every moment. This is a therapy technique that can completely change the way you look at yourself, at your day and at your life.

Spend every morning being mindful. While drinking your cup of coffee, be aware of how wonderful it tastes, how warm it is and how calm and peaceful you feel. While doing chores, be aware of how accomplished you feel. While getting ready, be aware of how your clothes make you feel, how much you have to be grateful for and all the things you love about yourself. Practice mindfulness every morning until it becomes second nature. Let it heal you.

Relax.

You might think “why would I wake up early to relax if I could just stay asleep longer?” I don’t blame you. It seems silly. But what I can tell you is that sleeping later means prolonging the inevitable moment of not wanting to get out of bed and waking up early and relaxing means starting your day with peace. This doesn’t have to mean yoga or meditation. It could mean sitting quietly with a cup of coffee or reading for 20 minutes before checking your phone. However you choose to do it, put yourself in a place of calm and improve your day ahead of time.

Do whatever the fuck you want.

As much as Ive tried, I can’t technically tell you how to start your mornings. Everyone is different. Play around with my advice and see what works best for you. The number one tip that I know will never fail is this one: do whatever you want. You know what makes you happy, you know what makes you calm. Wake up and do those things. The more you celebrate yourself, the more positive your attitude and the more equipped you are to have a successful day, every day.

Find the perfect morning routine to celebrate YOU!

Let me know in the comments below what you would add to this list and tune in for our next Wishlist Wednesday to see my picks for good morning essentials!

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The Only Planner a Lady Boss Will Ever Need

Perfect Planner for every lady boss
Passion Planner

What does the New Year and a lady boss have in common? They both call for a good planner!

If you’re anything like me, then you probably have a weird obsession with the paper planner. Throw in some pens in every color and adorable stickers and we’re in heaven!

The problem with planners is that it’s hard to find one that meets all of our expectations. This is exactly what Angelia Trinidad was thinking when she thought up the Passion Planner.

Angelia Trinidad
Passion Planner is just that: a planner for your passions. It’s equipped with so many helpful tools to keep your goals on the top of your priority list. You start out your planner with the “passion roadmap” where you reflect on all the things you want to accomplish and how to get there.
Passion Roadmap
Each week you get hour-by-hour planning space for each day along with a “Today’s Focus” box, a personal priorities list, a work priority list, and for all those straggling thoughts and doodles there is the “Space of Infinite Possibility.”

At the end of each month is a page to reflect on how much you worked toward your goals and what you can do better in the next 30 days.


Angelia Trinidad was pre-med at UCLA when she found herself exploring a new idea for a planner. She made a sketch, started a Kickstarter page and within 23 days she had raised over $48,000 from more than 1000 people in 40 different countries. All of a sudden Passion Planner was a real thing. (What a lady boss, am I right??)

Angelia Trinidad
“I wanted to make a place to give us the peace of mind to restart, to find direction when we felt lost, a planner where people pursue their passions not just ideally with “one day’s” or “I wishes” but in doing something everyday and holding themselves accountable.”

We all know how hard it is to face doubt, fear and what-ifs and still stay passionate about our goals. Throw a busy life on top of that and it can almost seem impossible. The Passion Planner is a great way to keep all of that into perspective. Not to mention, knowing Angelia’s story is a constant reminder that your goals are achievable. Head over to www.passionplanner.com to get one for yourself and let every page help you reach just a little bit farther towards your dreams.

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Lady Boss Guide to New Year’s Resolutions

Wake up and shake off that New Year’s hangover, people! It’s January 1st: the official day of new beginnings and future hope. And what is the number one tradition of a brand new January 1st? New Year’s Resolutions, of course!

We’ve all done it; got pumped, made a few goals, went full speed and fizzled out by March. So how do we make 2017 different? How can we stick to our goals? Lady Boss Nation has compiled a list of tried and true habits to get you in the right mindset to smash the crap out of your goals this year.

New Year's Resolutions

Make a plan.

Obvious, right? Most of us know, however, that making a plan and sticking to it is a lot harder than it seems. You write down your goals, map out hopeful milestones and when you miss your first one you’re bummed out and motivation has left the building.

This year, try planning one week at a time. You don’t know how quickly you can reach those milestones until you’re on your way. Sitting down every Sunday and reflecting on your week’s accomplishments while writing down the next steps for your week ahead will not only help you plan, but will give you a weekly reminder to really think hard about what you’re trying to achieve.

Don’t complicate things.

My goal for 2016 was to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle. I wrote down comprehensive workout plans and tried the extensive meal prepping and it was really helpful until I started getting overwhelmed. I quickly ran out of motivation to continue doing all of these things and I could feel myself going into a downward spiral.

I needed things to be easier. So I stopped meal prepping and started taking the basics to work, like veggies and fruit and the leftovers from whatever healthy meal we had the night before. I reminded myself that just getting exercise was more important than how I was exercising (the workout programs came later when I had a feel for it all).

By simplifying my plan, I never lost motivation and by May I had lost a total of 40 pounds and had never felt stronger. I still use a simple plan today, because living a healthy life should be as easy as possible when you’re busy being a lady boss.

Believe you are the person you want to become.

Yes, I’m talking about visualization! It might sound silly, but think of it this way:

Say your goal is to make major headway in the workplace. Great! But be specific. So, now your new year’s resolutions include getting a promotion and the raise you deserve. Much better. But what if instead of making a list of ways to achieve these goals you went back to work in 2017 with this in your head:

I am the type of person who will take on any challenge at work.
I am the type of person who keeps a positive attitude towards co-workers.
I am the type of person who can confidently discuss my progress at work and clearly define what I expect from my employer.

This type of attitude is life-changing and it can work with any goal you have your sights set on.

Accountability. Accountability. Accountability.

You’ve heard it before and you’ll hear it again. Accountability is super helpful in achieving your goals! But maybe you’ve been burned before. Maybe your support system wasn’t as supportive as you thought or you fizzled out and felt embarrassed that people were expecting you to succeed.

The key to accountability is to find the right support system. As I mentioned above, 2016 was about losing weight for me. My lady squad was totally on board and encouraged me the whole way through! By the end of the year, I made the big decision to start my own blog and while my girl gang was supportive, none of them could really relate. So I reached out to a friend who liked to pick up side hustles here and there and we quickly found out that a blog was in both of our near futures! Now I can bitch to my girlfriends about leg day and pick this other friend’s brain about blogging and I’ve got support flying at me from all different directions.


I want to hear from you!

So there’s our simple little list of realistic ways to achieve your New Year’s resolutions this year. We’d love to hear your feedback on how you’ve achieved your goals in the past! E-mail Lady Boss Nation at ladybossblog@gmail.com or leave a comment below!

Happy New Years!

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